Saturday, August 29, 2009
Posted by Stephanie Davis at 10:40 AM
Friday, August 28, 2009
When you go on a journey that really tests you physically mentally and emotionally all at the same time, it breaks you down but makes you stronger and really makes you want to share with others what you have learnt along the way.
I’ve mentioned that I previously worked as a personal weight loss consultant, at a time when honestly, I was not confident nor successful in managing my own weight. Despite this, I was a very successful consultant in an industry about numbers and statistics- I managed to top the list as seeing more clients per hour (ie they kept booking in to see me) than any other consultant in the state! I really enjoyed the job and wonder now, given what I have learnt, whether I would be more or less successful at it… and honestly, I’m not sure….Because I would define ‘success’ very differently to the company!
A weight loss company’s various measures of success all come down to the bottom line- $. All of our statistics were in relation to clients per hour, sales figures in relation to memberships and products. Did we measure how many clients hit their ‘goal weight’, completed the maintenance course and didn’t return to us back at square one…. Of course not! I was even dubbed a ‘specialist’ in counselling clients who were returning to the program (often many times over the years). This saddens me now, because as much as I tried to ‘empower’ people to learn to manage their own weight, this was a rare victory indeed.
Having said that, it was never about me. I was only one piece of that person’s weight loss puzzle. One of the biggest things I have learnt is that you can be as well supported and motivated by others as you like but you must find also your own ‘intrinsic’ motivation in order to be consistent, patient, driven and dare I say stubborn enough to stay the course. It helps you recognise that if you stray from plan too often, muddle around with half effort etc the world doesn’t end, it doesn’t matter to anyone else (might actually make them happier) but you are just cheating yourself. I’ve learnt that excuses and justifications for eating poorly and skipping workouts are just a state of denial. Feeling flat and need a ‘refeed’? No sorry, having gone ‘cheat meal’ free now for almost 7 weeks has forced me to learn that I won’t die or go crazy without certain foods and to admit that when I do re-introduce these meals, they are purely for taste… which is a great reason to eat, on occasion!
Be patient with yourself- eg it has seriously taken me well over a year to slowly and literally wean myself off ‘needing’ tomato sauce on certain things and having milk in coffees.. reduce these extras gradually, I could not have gone from dousing sauce on everything and drinking cappuccinos to not having a drop of either! Long blacks are my comp prep saviour!
Have you ever thought to yourself, ‘how easy would it be to lose weight if I had someone cooking all my meals for me and a personal trainer’, etc etc? Sounds pretty sweet however, without intrinsic motivation then you might just end up with more time to try not think about food… Instead, learn to derive satisfaction from the hard ‘unglamorous’ work that goes on behind the scenes, rather than feeling restricted or deprived. You wanted this, right? When on a true 'lifestyle change' rather than diet you shouldn't feel overly restricted at any point (other than say 4-6 weeks out from a comp) anyway and as i said, making changes very gradual eases the pain ;)
My journey started when I accepted that I would never have enough information to satisfy me and there would never be a ‘perfect stress-free time’ to concentrate on a goal. I started learning by doing, making mistakes and hanging on for dear life xx
Posted by Stephanie Davis at 12:03 PM
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Sunday, August 23, 2009
Quick one- feeling good overall. Have had a really positive mindset all week but then 2 'episodes' involving high anxiety/panic... usually when tired AND hungry. Its funny, nothing really worrying me at the time- purely physical reaction! I just concentrate on slowing down my breathing, get some water in and am fine again within minutes.
Posted by Stephanie Davis at 10:22 AM
Thursday, August 20, 2009
Today’s post is inspired by the media!
Its splashed across the current issue of the Australian New Idea featuring a story about Magda Szubanski and no doubt you’ve heard about the Federal Government’s “crackdown” on weight loss industry in relation to ensuring they also help clients maintain their weight loss.
In my experience as a consultant in the weight loss industry some companies have by now been clever enough to hit the ‘maintenance’ angle. However, just quietly this conveniently sells more programs, keeps people on the program longer and therefore sells more products.
I am becoming more and more aware of the need to address physiological issues behind successful weight management, in order to truly get off the dieting bandwagon and as dumb as it sounds, not be afraid of food! For me to overcome this I have had to build my self –confidence by demonstrating to myself that not only could I lose weight (despite my prior insistence of poor genetics/metabolism/luck) but could keep it off.
Dr Phil says that past behaviour is a good predictor for future behaviour, with which I agree. However, its too easy to let past attempts and perceived failure (yo yo dieting) hold you back from trying. And when I say ‘trying’ I actually mean ‘doing’:
“Do or do not- there is no try” – Yoda.
Some people prefer to ‘try’ to eat well, exercise and lose weight for fear of failure/embarrassment if they fail. Some people will be on and off diets their whole lives. The thought of struggling with body image, emotional eating etc throughout adulthood and motherhood really bugged me, I wanted to conquer these beasts once and for all!
Deciding to compete in my first figure comp at first seemed a little illogical as I was told that, “if girls don’t already have an eating disorder they will post comp”. And here I was approaching it the other way around. I also read a lot about the dreaded post comp rebound, which in my opinion seems like an extreme version of the yo yo dieting I had struggled with, and would probably be inevitable IF I were to view comp prep as ‘the ultimate DIET’! All I knew at this point was that I was tired of working hard in the gym for an average physique and never really looking any different. So even though I knew I had a lot of work ahead of me, I accepted the challenge.
What made the difference was deciding to commit to competing over 12 months in advance and upon numerous recommendations, hiring a brilliant coach. I knew that with or without me, that show was happening on 26 September 2009 and in order to get to the stage I would have to commit 100%, no half assed effort would do. My coach is certainly not the kind to hold your hand and in the nicest possible way, doesn’t have time to waste on anyone with questionable commitment. But I still had plenty of time to get used to the organisation, routines, discipline and make heaps of mistakes along the way.
A lorna jane gym shirt I wear often and that many of you probably own, sums it up:
“Never never never give up”- Winston Churchill.
I would like to add: But this time, give it EVERYTHING! With persistent effort and patience, you will push through past ‘barriers’ and be amazed with what you can achieve. When you give yourself enough time to lose the weight slowly, it is no longer a ‘diet’ but becomes a lifestyle. You’d be surprised with how over time, new habits can form, replacing things you previously ‘couldn’t live without’… tomato sauce I’m talking to you! :)
Posted by Stephanie Davis at 8:00 PM
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
If you come into your show in great condition then the size you are and
the size of the next girl really isn't that great a difference - there maybe
slight differences but ultimately the height is the main governing factor -
and thank goodness for lycra - it is a very forgiving fabric - lol
Posted by Stephanie Davis at 12:03 PM
Saturday, August 15, 2009
Posted by Stephanie Davis at 6:04 PM
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
As the title indicates, I've had a little switch up in terms of my weekly cardio in an effort to keep things moving! Now doing a couple of high intensity sessions in amongst the long and slow stuff. Nutrition around this cardio is different as well of course, to ensure Im burning fat and preserving muscle. My coach Jon explains all of this really well in his article in the current Oxygen mag (Eat to Compete- Part 2) so if you're wondering about what sort of cardio is best for fat burning, the answer is it depends what you're eating- worth a read!!
Posted by Stephanie Davis at 11:31 AM
Saturday, August 8, 2009
Posted by Stephanie Davis at 8:17 PM
Jadey asked how much time I have in the mornings to prepare breakfast. Answer- very little! I prep EVERYTHING in bulk and in advance. Meaning there is a sizable tupperware container of mashed cauliflower in my fridge right now ready to go ;) I do spend some time doing this on weekend etc though cos I like to make sure I enjoy my meals.
Posted by Stephanie Davis at 1:23 PM
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
Posted by Stephanie Davis at 8:11 PM
Saturday, August 1, 2009
and again, not too much to report! ahh how boring. Only had a small drop in skins this week and now that we are at the 8 week out mark i need at least a certain amount each week to lean down in time. Having a coach though, I'm not worried about this at all. All I have to worry about is getting through what he deals out! lol. my cardio jumped up quite a bit this week so Im kinda hoping the weeks keep flying by like they have been and Im looking forward to warmer weather and earlier sunrises.
Posted by Stephanie Davis at 7:44 PM